Written by Funmi Akingbade - Punch, Nigeria.
Whenever you feel that your knowledge of getting your spouse in gear for sex is inadequate or limited, then it might be time to brush up your knowledge of the art of sexual facts to avert clumsiness. Sex is a mysterious and sacred act that knits couple together in ways that are beyond description.
A medical study has discovered that married couples who invest sufficient knowledge into sexual activities with a positive attitude have the best, most satisfying sex. They enjoy sex more often and have the highest level of physical and emotional fulfilment. This is because a good sexual escapade prevents dullness, lackadaisical attitude and lack of interest.
Who says the only time a wife could be swept off her feet should be the night of her wedding? As a matter of fact, clumsy-free sex sweeps anyone off his or her feet. Clumsy-free sex allows both spouses to have more opportunities to try new things, make small adjustment, and build towards a state of heightened arousal that rocks from head to toe.
Wives, please bear in mind that our men are goal-oriented; they often figure the faster and harder they work it down there, the more powerful your orgasm will be, which is why it is important for you to set the tone. So from the moment your husband starts kissing you, you should relaxingly be grasping his hip, caressing his arm, back or thighs, or sliding your finger around the nape of his neck. From caressing to grabbing or tender scratching and tender whisperings, you can bring your man to the brink of paradise and keep him dangling there in blissful suspense until he begs for mercy by giving him a series of tantalizing attention you would want him to give you. So start by caressing his penis carefully, not absentmindedly. Pay attention to how he is responding. Give him more of what makes him breathe faster, moan or sigh. If he is circumcised, use a slow, light, up-and-down stroke when his penis is not lubricated.
You can also just trail your fingers up the length of the shaft, and over and around the head. Since most men get erection first thing in the mornings, you can set your alarm 15 minutes before you have to be up, strip down, take his hand in yours, and gently guide it over your body, lingering on your nipples and your clitoris. It is the best big way to wake him up. Many husbands love women who crave pleasure and take matters into their own hands…literally.
Try pressing and releasing his fingertip against your clitoris several times, then use his finger to make small circles in either direction to hit all of your nerves. It can be soothing when the wife goes extra mile to really embrace the penis of her husband. Not only does this allow him to sit back, relax, and enjoy being stimulated, it also means that he can watch you touch him, watching is erotic and enticing. In addition, it will teach the wife a lot about how to be his ultimate lover. A steady rhythm, a confident grip, and plenty of lubrications will pretty much guarantee his and your pleasure. Steady rhythms prevent clumsiness.
The prostate gland is nicknamed the male G-spot; slowly slide a lubricated finger around the base of the penis and feel for a fleshy mound that is similar in texture to the woman’s G-spot. It is slightly raised and rippled . Just use your finger for a firm caressing strokes of this prostate for deep and meaningful orgasms. The use of condoms greatly prevents clumsiness and can remove any issue of funny premature ejaculation, because the condom helps the man to momentarily lose sensation which indirectly delays ejaculation. And of course, do not forget the fact that dim light helps to blossom a clumsy-free sex, so keep a reflective light on.
Husbands love to watch while their wives experiment with their penis. Close your eyes slightly if you feel self-conscious. From his angle, he’ll think you’re gazing adoringly at his penis regardless the size.
Ask your husband to pour lubricant on your breasts and rub it in. Once they are warm and moistened, use them to lubricate his penis. Every wife can be a red-hot lover without being inept to her husband just learning the trick of clumsy-free game. While still giving him love play, sit up and cup your breasts, ask your partner to pour some lubricant oil between them. You can even put on a show and rub it in while he watches or ask him to do it for you, slowly, passionately, seductively, and sensual.
Every husband wants to taste the extra packaging that comes along with well-arranged sex. The aroma of a hygienic, dirt-free vagina fluid is one of the erotic sexual power for many husbands. So keep your vagina inviting, captivating, appealing, tempting and enticing always.
Husbands should know that the woman’s surest gateway to a good sex is through 100 per cent carefulness and tenderness. And when you ignore it, you are cutting real first-class sex out of the relationship. And what most wives want in bed is a man who is not clumsy; someone who knows how to control the timing of his ejaculation while love play is on, so that both spouses will get the maximum pleasure from sex. The longer a husband lasts, the deeper his climax, the sweeter the sex for his wife. Wives by nature need time to be fully aroused whereas husbands get aroused almost immediately. Besides, 87 per cent of women do not climax through penetrative sex alone. Most need some form of extra stimuli, massaging and clitoral caresses. All these help to build a woman’s excitement level before thrusting and prevent clumsiness because the average woman needs around 20 to 28 minutes of connection.
One major reason many wives are not active sexually is that their anticipated sexual escapade is frustrated, cut short and curtailed by their husbands’ inability to control their ejaculation timing. If there is anything that is most clumsy for women, it is this singular act. Remarkably, this can easily be achieved; it is so easy to develop complete self-control to the extent that any husband can actually choose when to ejaculate during sex. When you have this level of control, your sexual self-confidence will be so high that you can confidently satisfy your wife in bed any time.
Most wives love the inner part of their vagina to be caressed with their husbands’ fingers. So, for a supercharged experience, experts recommend the fingering of the vagina or sucking of the nipples [about 1 per cent of women can reach orgasm from breast stimulation alone] and the clitoris which can keep your wife moaning with delight. The husband should fondle his wife’s labia for at least five minutes before touching her clitoris.
So while caressing your wife, it must not be done clumsily in a rush. It is advisable for the wife to take a comfortable position with legs wide apart so that her husband will be able to gently play with her genitals. Sometimes just touching a wife’s breast is enough to bring her to orgasm while other women are almost totally unresponsive. Therefore, husband, if your wife seems indifferent to your advances, there’s no point insisting. It is better to try to discover her other erogenous zones. In addition, wives should not feel guilty if they do not enjoy breast play. Remember it is not unusual and things can change.
Breasts should be handled with care for guaranteed pleasure. Majority of wives love having their breasts fondled. However, there is one important rule: be gentle and handle them with care. Only few wives enjoy having their breasts pinched, or manhandled. Many wives experience strong erotic pleasure having their breasts fondled during foreplay but they often complain that their spouses pay them insufficient attention either because they are in a hurry or are clumsy. There are countless ways to enjoy breasts foreplay! Using your fingertips, trace first the outline of her breast and then the areola. Pressing against the nipple and areola with the tip of your tongue often triggers a strong sexual response. Then you can do whatever you like! You can suck on the nipple, lick the breasts sensually or fondle both breasts at the same time. A drip of honey trickled over the breasts in a cool air-conditioned room can spice things up and really whet your appetite. Breasts are a symbol of femininity and wives love their men to admire their breasts. So, a few well-chosen compliments will not do any harm and should help produce the desired effect.
Try to avoid too much fondling during the build-up to her period as breasts can become heavy and painful at this time. Some husbands may fantasise about a “pearl necklace” sex. This involves the stimulation of the penis by the breasts. Most wives are not aware of this or how to carry it out but with a little practice, it can be a highly erotic sexual act. Men’s nipples are generally considered less sensitive than women’s. However, it is still best to caress them gently, with either your finger or tongue and be prepared to stop if your husband does not seem to enjoy it. On the other hand, a man’s chest is much more sensitive than a woman’s, particularly the ridge defining the bottom of the pectoral muscles. Kiss your husband repeatedly in this area, tickle him gently with your tongue, caress him with your fingertips or lightly scratch him. He may be surprised to discover just how sensitive his chest is!