Tessa, (39), Civil Servant, is accusing her best friend of envy and betrayal:
I don't have much to say about the whole matter. All I want you to do for me is to warn her to stop chasing after me. I know she is planning some evil or misfortune for me, but my God will not allow her to succeed. She is not my friend. I have noticed this through her behaviour before now, but now, I have confirmed it and I know she is after my life.
If not because of the gift of dreams that God gave me, I might not have been able to detect her plans for me. I believe so much in my dreams because all the important ones have always come true so far. I have seen her three times in separate dreams.
Once, I saw her discussing with people that I don't talk to anymore. She knows I don't, and I have told her to steer clear of them if she wants to remain my friend. So, if she is my friend, why was she with my enemies in my dream.
The second time, she was chasing me with a stick and shouting my name. I don't know what she said I did to her in the dream, but I saw myself running away from her. The third time, we were fighting each other. And when I fight with someone in my dream, it is a bad omen.
That is why I have come to report her to you. In fact, when I heard that you have come to
Please don't be annoyed, you must take things easy. What is the actual problem, what is her offence? I asked.
Thank you Aunty, you too can help us judge this matter, after all, you are a woman. We have been good friends now for almost five years, at least, since they moved to this neighbourhood. We do things together and everyone knows we are good friends.
Your sister can attest to this. I loved her like a sister and I believe she loved me too. But her behaviour of recent times have opened my eyes to the fact that she is not a true friend after all. She has not been as loyal with me as I have been with her. There is nothing I have not done to show her how much I love her, but she still goes around stabbing me in the back everywhere I turn.
Please, ask her if I have not allowed my boyfriend to make love with me in her presence before. We took her out with us and made love in the same room with her. What more can I do for my friend? My secrets are with her, I have hidden nothing from her. Maybe this is why she is behaving like this with me.
It is my house which is still under construction that has caused all this problems oh. She is jealous of my success. You can't believe that as close as we claim to be, she does not know the site of the house I am building in my home town.
Last year, when we went to lay the foundation for the construction, we had a small service and light entertainment for the guests. I didn't even know that people do this sort of thing before then. It was suggested to me by some friends at my office.
They said I must do it that it is like committing the project into God's hands. When I informed her, she too agreed that it was a good idea. But you can't believe that she did not help me with the preparations at all.
On the said day, my best friend did not show up until late in the evening when the whole thing was almost over and many of the guests had left. She stayed up for sometime and later demanded for a bed to sleep. Her excuse was that she had a rough time with her car on the way to my home town as she didn't have a driver. The next day, she didn't even bother to ask me to take her to the location until she left. Up till today, ask my friend if she knows the place.
Is it my fault that she doesn't have money to build a house of her own? Or is it my fault that she doesn't have enough boyfriends to attend to her needs? I have four boyfriends right now and she knows all of them. One of them is an Oba, though of a small town in Epe,
She complained that she did not like my relationship with him. Ok, now that I think of it, maybe this was actually where the problems started. She calls him Oba jegejege, but I know that even if he is not a first class Oba or very rich, he has the name and personality to command respect. Even in his so-called wretchedness according to her, oh, I know the things I have gained through his assistance. As regards the house I am building, he has assisted me with several Tippers of gravel and sand.
That is not to mention the people I have been opportune to meet through him.
It is things like these that I have been telling her that she should be looking for in relationships.
But she will never listen.
She loves going out with men who are not worth the bother. Many of them don't even give her anything tangible, instead, she spends her own money on them. Whenever I ask that we buy something together, she will always have one excuse or another.
The standard one is that she has no money. How can she have money when all her money goes into irrelevant ventures? How much can she make from a boutique, or how much can her husband give her?
I have tried to fix her up with better men, but they never like her. Is that my fault? She doesn't have the luck for men like I have. Ask her if it is a lie. Once, Kabiyesi threw a party. I invited her with three other friends who wanted boyfriends. Everyone of them caught a man friend each, but my friend did not find any suitable man. Am I to blame for that?
She doesn't know that I have spies in her shop who give me full details of what she does there. She has a new boyfriend who has entered her system, so she can't reason properly anymore.
I was told by my spies that they were discussing my affairs at the boutique over a bottle of Stout. Can you imagine? Maybe she was drunk then, because I still find it difficult to believe.
All I want is that, you should warn her for me. If she wants to go her own way, let her do so without going around to spoil my name. I know that I am not so lucky when it comes to having a loving and caring husband. But I am grateful to God for giving me the luck to have the love of my boyfriends. They swarm around me like bees and I am only trying to do her a favour. If she doesn't want it anymore, she can go. This is my own side of the story.
We therefore decided to meet there later in the day. Please ask her if she told me that she would be attending the party with a friend?
In fact, she shouldn’t have gone there with someone at all. You see, the people hosting this party were family friends to both our families. They used to live in our neighborhood until a few months back when they parked to their own house. Common sense ought to have informed her that we were bound to meet people who would know us at such a gathering, including people from the neighborhood. So, I never expected any funny games from her.
As I said, my husband and I had to attend an impromptu meeting somewhere earlier in the day. Our plan had been to return home from our outing, then, I could attend those people’s party later in the day.
But when we could not leave the meeting on time for what we agreed on earlier, my husband decided we should attend the party together. I never planned that we should spend such a long time at the place, so everything that happened was not under my control.
And so, when my husband suggested that we both make a stop over at the party together since they were his friends too, I didn’t know how to turn him down.
Moreover, I had make him to understand that it was a must that I should be at the party, even if it was for just a few minutes. So, it was a surprise when we got to the party and I saw her in the company of one of her boyfriends.
As soon as I saw them, I knew it would be dangerous to share the same table with them because anything can happen. I did not want my husband suspecting her of any hanky-panky, so I led my husband to another area of the party to seat with some other friends. Even despite this, my husband and I went over to greet them and I also went to her on two other occasions.