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The marriage is over when?

1. You are happy your mate is not around: 
If you start feeling on top of the world that your spouse isn't around, check it.

3. You or your spouse cheats:
Are you always cheating on your spouse? Or you have an excuse for adultery-she/he is doing same and you are on a revenge mission? Do you flaunt girlfriends in your spouse' face with a there's-nothing-you-can-do attitude? You could break up your union.
2. You have totally lost respect for each other in the relationship:
One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is mutual respect. When that's gone-when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected and condescended to (and the other partner doesn't see it or refuses to talk through it), you are in a bad place.
4. You no longer have sex:
Your bed is cold and you resent the man or woman sleeping next to you? Or have you started sleeping separately in different rooms due to constant quarrels? Then you are on the verge of a separation.
5. You're no longer a team:
In healthily humming-along marriages, both partners work as a team on everything- from parenting to running the household to supporting each other in career and personal ambitions. But when you start operating on different levels and refused working as one on day-to-day issues, there is trouble in that marriage.

6. You keep an ex-lover as a friend:
Old flames still have embers and don't quench easily. Before you know what is happening, you are into adultery and that is an enormous hurdle for a marriage to overcome. There is no way you can maintain a 'healthy' friendship with a former lover. Mind you, as you encounter problems in your marriage, you tend to think of your former lover, who is now a friend and always a ready-shoulder-to-cry-on. Thinking of him/her more than your spouse? Trouble looms!
7. You are unyielding in terms of wants and needs:
Marriage is about sacrifices. It's give and take. It's all about constant communication. A major part of marriage involves trying to fulfill your partner's needs while also making sure your own needs are met. But if your partner continually refuses to listen to what you need (time, affection, sex/physical contact, help with children or chores), or refuses to share his own needs, you're not in a good place.
8. You disagree on the number of children and other issues:
There are many areas of compromise in a marriage, such as who is responsible for dealing with the finances, where you should spend the holidays , how to handle family issues and so on. But if one of you is absolutely sure you want more children and the other categorically refuses, you're in trouble. Marriage is about two persons walking together in agreement.

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