By Femi Ajasa
~Vanguard: Wednesday, April 13, 2016
Dating a typical Nigerian lady can be a topsy-turvy experience especially for a man who is just wetting his feet in the dating game. Normally, women are complicated beings let alone a Nigerian woman who has so many challenges to deal with like an unstable economy, family, tradition, ethnicity, religion, peer pressure, biology and much more. All these factors conspire to influence whoever she will date.
The averageman with his chauvinistic African mindset or perception does not understand this and expect this type of woman to accept him hook, line and sinker. Little does he know that the days of parents marrying wives for their kids isold skooland that most women know what they want. If you want your relationship to blossom with a typical Nigerian woman, Jovago.com, Africa's shares tips that can make this dream a reality.
Give her money to make her hair
Didi,Shooku, andPatewoare traditional hairstyles in Nigeria but young women prefer the Brazilian hair, the deft Ghana weaving, and attachment because it makes them appear sophisticated. They rarely wear their natural hair, adorning these foreign hairstyles cost money and time and she expects her man to foot the bill for her hair. If not always but once in awhile. In other cases, if you notice she is wearing a new hairstyle, it will not kill you to compliment her and perhaps pay for it. Afterwards, it is because of you, she spends that much time at the salon anyways.
Accept the invite to her church
Nigerians are very religious people. A typical Nigerian lady will always scheme for ways to invite you to her church especially if she really likes you. Importantly, do not reject the offer even if you not a 'churchy' person. It is an opportunity for her to show you off especially if you are smooth and suave, to her family, friends and even her pastor whom she relies on for spiritual guidance.
Do not surprise her with a home visit except...
A Nigerian woman is calculative and smart. She knows how to play the dating game. She knows the right time and the man who give a pass to her home. But some men jump the gun by paying her a surprise visit to her home. She will not be excited to see. In fact, she may not even come out at all. You are on your own as you disappointed. It is better to be patient for the invite. If she is not forthcoming, you can discuss the issue with her.
Respect her parents
If she is a woman you desire as a life partner, you must respect her parents when you eventually visit them. For example, if she is from a Yoruba home, you will be swimming in the waters of respect because the Yorubas from South-West Nigeriavalue respect. So, you are expected to greet not just greeting but prostrate. This will put you in the good books of her parents. Other Nigerian ethnic groups have their rules for respect.
A pathway to marriage
Any perambulating relationship will not last for the typical Nigerian woman. Sooner or later she will quit the relationship if the relationship is aimless and does not have any direction. She will give you marriage signs but of course, she will not pop the question. She will be more concerned if you are matured and she knows that ready. The question she will ask herself why the delay?